Back in the day way before Internet and social media, men making the first move really was the golden rule of dating.A man having to build up the courage to ask the girl who had caught his eye on a date may seem very out of synch with what we are used to now, however it was almost always the case; even when it came to the first kiss!He’s courteous, thus, sometimes wrongfully labeled an outdated traditional relic from a lost time when men earned the bread and women made the sandwiches.And, although the results of his gentlemanly behaviour are usually positive, his genuine gestures are sometimes mistaken for male-chauvinism.Do not assume the guy is opening his own door and do not try to get in on the other side. Or should you start the move with one arm and cunningly slip the second in when the first is halfway down the sleeve, with a neat twist to round off the performance? And, when your poor trapped hand is flailing about trying to find the end of the sleeve, how do you avoid smacking the unfortunate coat-holder in the groin?You may end up driving home, and I assure you you will regret it. Now, I’m a modern, independent, professional woman, and in the UK it is customary to share the love where picking up the check is concerned. I wonder if Polish girls have special sports classes to teach them the ins and outs of this particular move… Go forth and navigate the complex tangles of Polish social etiquette! Men have to pay, must always open doors, must always pick the women up and take them home, and whilst I think that's lovely, surely we're beyond that point now?It's great when you're dating someone who cares about you, so realistically, they would of course ensure you get home safe, and do things for you.
Although chivalrous, he doesn’t walk around town calling women “dames”, or question their ability to hold down a good job and drive a car. My friend was being nice, and as a result of his friendliness he was made to feel uncomfortable, as though his nice gesture was part of some hidden-agenda to sneak a peak.
As women, we love our modern independence, but deep down we want guys to treat us like ladies. That being said, sometimes a guy’s attempt at chivalry goes wrong and the entire notion of its existence is called into question.
For example, I have a guy friend who is chivalrous in nature.
Should you find yourself in possession of a seat on the tram, and a babcia of the moherowe variety looks in your direction, relinquish it . I have to admit, while dating a Polish guy for a bit I noticed one or two strange things: having doors opened for you and having to get into the car first (please note, if you unlock the passenger door in a Ford Fiesta before going to the driver’s door, the alarm . Intrigued by the complexity of etiquette here, we quizzed our Polish teacher over a quantity of grzaniec in Nowa Prowincja. How’s a poor foreign guy in Poland ever going to survive? Some older guys or those with a quaint sense of humour will still kiss your hand. Try not to flinch, or to wipe said hand on seat of trousers. If it’s some fragrant drunk in the Planty, run, and get yourself to a bucket of disinfectant as soon as ever you can. A well brought-up Polish man, who is kind to old ladies and brings his babcia flowers on a Sunday, should always open the passenger door for the young lady to get in.
For me, the first manifestation of this was on the tram, on my very first morning in Kraków, when my boss came to pick me up to go to work. There’s a strictly enforced tradition of giving up your seat to elderly ladies. If you are male and under fifty, don’t expect to sit down, anywhere, If you are female and look younger than twenty five, the same applies.