a codependent person," said the codependent person.
"I'm way too independent and responsible to depend on another person like that.
At its core, codependency is a dysfunctional relationship with yourself. Often, the children of alcoholics, the mentally ill, or people with narcissistic tendencies or borderline personality disorders grow up as codependents.
Not knowing how to love yourself in healthy ways is an essential and underlying cause of codependency. Not much, other than exhaustion and the hopeless feeling that no matter how hard he tries, it will never be enough. They, by default, are required to take care of the struggling parent, and a pattern emerges.
___Have you been working on your online dating profile? Finding the exact right words to describe your wonderful self?
Rather it is due to the activation of unconscious psychological attraction mechanisms that recognize a perfect “dancing partner” who makes her heart skip a beat or two.
The more I researched codependency, the more I saw every issue that plagued my adolescence and new adulthood: indecisiveness, insecurity, toxic boyfriends and a chronic need to control all huddled under one umbrella term.
For the first time, I understood myself—and every woman in my family—in a new, brighter light.
You have to be willing to see traces of it in your own life and behavior.
And you have to be willing to acknowledge all of your emotions, even if you’ve trained yourself to stuff them for years.