However, I came to the conclusion after finding out about "bun-in-the-oven" that we are men and women first. I have two young boys myself and understand this mentality. How can I gather information from him in regard to where WE are and what our future will be with out seeming heartless or cold? His own family doesn’t seem to want much to do with him.Yet he’s serious about a girl from another country and culture. At times, it can threaten the very fabric of family life and the larger family culture.The connection with a new person helps diminish your loss and pain in a very substantial way.
Now you find yourself sleepless, flushed, and unable to think of anything else.The relationship of a girlfriend and her guy’s kids can be so complicated, with so many factors to consider. The kids might feel like they are being disloyal to their mother if they are kind to the girlfriend. They might be jealous that the girlfriend is taking their dad’s time. They might have hope that the parents are getting back together and that this is the woman standing in the way of that. They might really like the woman, but are just shy. She said she ended up apologizing to the woman years later, because she realized it wasn’t the woman she disliked, it was HER feeling resentful that her dad wasn’t with her mom. Dating someone with kids is very different than dating someone who doesn’t have kids.So thrilled with this new relationship, you cannot imagine that everyone will not feel the same excitement.Then you call your adult children, giddy with enthusiasm, and are shocked by the somewhat cool response of your kids. What gets me to start thinking is, WHAT is my place in all of this? I am scared to death that he doesn't understand that concept. The LAST thing that I would ever want to come across as is heartless.