After you join any one of the many popular dating sites online, you will go on plenty of first dates.However, you’ll quickly discover that dating today is not like it was when you were younger. We can’t tell you how many times women have complained about men asking them to drive pretty far away just to meet them for a cup of coffee.I’m a 42 year old single mom who is very attractive (I look about 7 years younger), fun, has a great smile and laugh (and does both a LOT), emotionally stable, and not looking to race to the altar.And I definitely fit the definition of a “cool chick” – and my guy friends will confirm:-).” Unfortunately, the pool of men that I’m dating from (early to mid 40s, usually divorced) are pretty messed up.A little while ago, I offered unsolicited advice for men over 50 about dating. -- Stop worrying about how your body looks at your age. And those chunky men you're with have no room to complain. Women's faces are THE most miraculous creations on earth. There's truth to the maxim that older faces reflect character and wisdom. I had pointed out previously to men that some of things they say on dates aren't particularly wise. Just as I advised men to stop talking and LISTEN, it's beneficial when it goes in both directions.This came mostly from what women had told me about their dates. And while I'm confident men over 50 are generally worse at dating than women of that age, I'm equally sure that both genders can learn as they navigate new relationship terrain. Mature women take much better care of themselves, as a rule, than mature men. Regardless, women's bodies -- whatever the age -- are the second most miraculous creations on the planet. If a guy criticizes your body, point him toward a mirror and move on. I've never understood the myths fostered by the makeup industry, but if you want to wear it, okay. When women say they don't want to settle, it never comes across sounding good. I have had dates where for two hours, I was not asked a single question or had an opportunity to talk for more than a moment or two. They left not knowing if I had children (I do) or parents! This goes for both genders, but women over 50 seem to want to size guys up right away in terms of their long term relationship potential.
You send someone an email expressing your interest, and then you wait to discover whether or not you've been rejected. Personal reasons are rarely the reason for rejection, but it feels personal nonetheless.A number of them want younger women (never mind that I look much younger) – didn’t anyone tell these guys that women hit their sexual prime over 40:-)?I’m besieged by the 50 set even though our lives are completely different (like my kids are young and theirs are grown and they don’t want anymore).He or she is perfect for taking to a wedding or an event that you don't want to attend on your own.Or the one you take to the latest movie you want to see.When you show her that you’re willing to travel to meet her, even if it’s an hour away, that will show her that you are really interested.2. Women always appreciate when men ask her where she’d like to meet.