Having someone we’ve never met or corresponded with try to enter that space is akin to having them show up on our doorstep.
On more than one occasion, I have received Facebook friend requests from Catholic Match members.
, like, “a guy told me he was looking for a girlfriend by next year so he’d have someone to split rent with.” Then there was the charmer who told his date about the time he “got wasted, peed and mopped it up with his clothes, and then wore them.” Um, yeah., we’d like to assume you know better than to make mistakes like these.
It can be startling to receive a friend request from a guy you have never corresponded with. For the gals, wear a color that is flattering and guys, always wear a shirt! Don’t have other girls/guys (who aren’t your sisters or brothers) in your main picture.
This isn’t Sister Wives and I don’t want to be part of your entourage.
After the jump, some things dudes need to stop doing if they want to improve their luck online. That being said: I’ve found emoticons, “hi,” or “you’re hot” to be overused. In two weeks, I’ve received more than 20 messages that say nothing more.
Let me be frank with you: Women see these messages and delete them immediately. The other kind of first messages I’ve gotten a bunch of are the ones with a reference to or question about something I’ve written in my profile. The best kind of message to receive is one that indicates that you have something in common, shows your personality or sense of humor and expresses interest in getting together.