"Earlier, you mentioned 18 red flags; my friend only has two of them, so most don't apply to us." That may be true, but even one red flag could make the difference between a wise choice and a disaster when it comes to marriage.
With no disrespect to premarital surveys (I believe in their value), it would be nice if you could simply take a test, identify red flags and green lights, give them a number value, and calculate if you should move forward or not. Many people get married because of a fear of loneliness, of not having anymore chances in life to find love.
What I've talked about here relates to red flags, some clear, some more obscure, which If you're still concerned about your relationship, talk to someone.
Feel free to give us a call here at the Focus on the Family Counseling department. Our licensed counselors or chaplains would love to speak with you and, if you would like, can direct you toward local Christian counselors.
(Moody Pub, Chicago, 2009) I had the privilege of contributing to the chapter on blended families. SEE ALSO: Beyond the Brady Bunch: Hope & Help for Blended Families 11. (This may be as simple as closing a credit card account or as complex as refinancing a mortgage.) Questions regarding your values: 1. SEE ALSO: Blended Families Have Unique Challenges 3.
Are “yours” and “mine” children used to different spending styles? How will we resolve differences in spending/saving/allowance practices? After the wedding, how do you feel about changing the deeds/titles/beneficiaries to insurance, car titles, house deeds, and wills?
What happens to them when the surviving spouse dies or remarries? Do you have any financial commitments to your parents, siblings, or other family members?
What are the financial plans for your children should you die or be unable to work? What expectations do you have for me to support your family? Who is responsible for the children’s health insurance?
John Piper is founder and teacher of desiring and chancellor of Bethlehem College & Seminary.
For 33 years, he served as pastor of Bethlehem Baptist Church, Minneapolis, Minnesota.