If, during the courtship, one or both parties realize that marriage is not God’s will and they end the relationship, the courtship has not failed.On the contrary, the courtship was successful, because God gave the direction that was sought through it.
It is a decision to walk by faith, to trust in God, to honor others above yourself, and to believe that God will deal bountifully with you, because He is love.
In the late 1940s, Margaret Mead, in describing this pre-war dating system, argued that dating was not about sex or marriage.
Instead, it was a "competitive game," a way for girls and boys to demonstrate their popularity.
The Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC) states: "The consent must be an act of the will of each of the contracting parties, free of coercion or grave external fear. If this freedom is lacking the marriage is invalid." So, in the case of an arranged marriage, I do not see that the Church explicitly states it is wrong, nor does it seem to openly discourage the practice . (As a parent I have often joked that it would be "so much easier" to just arrange our children's marriages so as to know that they'll get good spouses! even if you don't know who your future spouse will be, God does!
However, all joking aside, we will leave the process of selecting a good spouse to our children -- with our sound direction and guidance offered through a courtship process. I encourage all young people to take up this practice . ) Truly, I do believe the move in our culture away from the practice of arranged marriages is a good thing.